Many many emails have been exchanged between Snowflakes and us these past few days.
The matching coordinator sent us four potential matching scenarios (one individual family and three combination possibilities) that met both the clinic's preferences and our initial criteria (vitrified blasts from 2007 or more recent). We saw no need to eliminate any of those possibilities and let the matching coordinator figure out which route she wanted to try first. (Two of the embryo sets had issues in familial health backgrounds, hence one of the reasons she wanted our general approval...)
There was a certain relief in letting the matching coordinator chose the starting point for us. We felt ourselves tempted towards that slippery slope of objectifying the embryos, based on their on-paper desirability. And we didn't want to get caught up in treating them merely like commodities.
The single family turned us down. Though I don't know the exact reason, I do know they had preferred an adoptive family with zero children.
It's challenging for the matching supervisor to coordinate a match with two donating genetic families at once (two smaller sets of embryos from completely separate families). In an effort to make things easier on all of us, I asked her to look and see if there are any waiting embryos sets that are slow-freeze blasts, instead of vitrified. And that's where we are now - waiting for her answer.
I trust we will, one day, find the right match for us. I am so thankful the matching coordinator doesn't mind my flurry of emails and is generally prompt in her replies!